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“Healing Hands, Healing Heart” by Dr. Eleanore Kue Cliquez ici pour Lire en français

My book is available on this website or Amazon.com.

The Bible says that we are surrounded by a cloud of witnesses (Hebrews 12:1), and one of them by the name of George Mueller has been a great inspiration to me.

Rising from a life of sin to become one of the world’s most revered Christian evangelists, George Muller was a true son of God. With nothing but his faith in Jesus Christ, he set upon himself the task of establishing orphanages for providing care and education for thousands of orphans.[1]

Ten years ago, I set on a journey to open a clinic in the inner city of Lansing, providing medical care to the underserved and trusting God to provide all my needs. Not only was He faithful, but He expanded my territory and healed my heart.

Dr. Melody Palm, Professor at the Assemblies of God Theological Seminary writes:

“Dr. Eleanore Kue’s life story is a testament of what happens when the power of a transforming God intersects with a willing, obedient woman who believes God’s promises. Eleanore’s story is a powerful example of a woman who earnestly and relentlessly pursued God’s word, His promises and His plans. Dr. Kue’s journey is a remarkable story. From humble beginnings, to the echelon of higher education, to a successful medical career, to ministering to those trapped in poverty in the streets of Michigan, Dr. Kue is a woman of God who has experienced the power of God to transform her own life, marriage, family, and ministry. Dr. Kue believes all things are possible with God and lives accordingly. She has a profoundly deep faith in God’s ability to heal, reconcile and restore. Her own personal life story is evidence of her unwavering faith in God’s promises and miracle working power. Dr. Eleanore Kue is a woman after God’s heart. Her life story and endless pursuit of the fulfillment of His promises will challenge, inspire, and take you deeper in your walk with the Lord.”

I pray that “Healing Hands, Healing Heart: The Dr. Eleanore Kue Story” will inspire you and help you to become who God has called you to be.

 

[1] https://www.thefamouspeople.com/profiles/george-muller-3815.php

My Identity

My Identity In Christ

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Several factors have influenced my identity. I am a product of my family background, the Cameroon patriarchal society, and the feminist movement in France. These factors have shaped my gender role expectations, the need to belong, and the high value placed on marriage

After achieving the American dream, I was confused. I did not know who I was and started looking for my purpose in life. I met someone who invited me to church, and I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I attended church regularly, was involved in the church, had a love for the Word and a vibrant devotional life. However, I did not always understand or exercise the authority that I have in Christ. As a child of God, Jesus gave authority to cast out demons (Mark. 3:15) who cannot possessed believers but can oppressed believers.

God used all these tools to shape my identity. I needed to know who I am in Christ. Many Christians are not living free and productive lives because they do not understand who they are and why they are here. They do not know that who they are is rooted in their identity and position in Christ.[1]

Before one believes in Christ, one is dead in one sins (Romans 6). When one accepts Christ, he or she is alive in Him, and the same power that raised Jesus from the dead is in us (Rom. 6, Eph. 1). Therefore, sin has no power over us.

In 2Corinthians 5:17, Paul said that Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come, the old has gone, the new is here! After salvation, we become a new creature. However, the process of sanctification (transformation into the image of Christ) is a process that involves letting go our old bad habits and learning new ways from the Holy Spirit. With the power and authority that Jesus gave us, we can speak to the enemy and to our circumstances and see changes. We see chains fall off, and we can experience freedom.

Today, I am enjoying freedom that has resulted from speaking to my mountains and life circumstances in the name of Jesus.

 

Dear friend: I want to help you understand who you are in Christ so that you will use the power and authority you have as believer and experience the freedom that Jesus promised. Jesus came so we can have life and abundantly (John 10: 10). May be you too have exercised your authority and power and have experience freedom, wherever you are in your journey of discipleship, I want to encourage you as you share your story. I look forward to hearing from you.

[1] Neil T. Anderson, Victory over the Darkness (Bloomington, MN: Bethany House Publishers, 2013), 43.

Godly Marriage

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One of the most challenging issues in the church is this idea that marriage involves a husband having authority OVER his wife.  I can’t tell you how many marriages have been harmed by this teaching and how often a marriage is reduced by teachings such as this.   Marriage is not a business or a corporation in which one person is leader over the other and decides what is best for another person.   In a Christian marriage, all individuals are equally created in God’s image. Consequently, they have equal worth, privilege, and opportunity in God’s Kingdom without reference to gender, ethnicity, or social status.[1]ith regard to marriage are to mutually submit to one another as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5: 20-24).

How Does Mutual Submission Work in a Marriage?

Mutual submission works by ridding ourselves of the fear that moving from a fixed imposed order of hierarchy will lead only to chaos, confusion, and disorder.[2]  Mutual submission is not structureless; it is not anarchy.  It is a negotiated, mutually agreed-upon order that allows for interchangeable roles and flexibility, one that is worked out to the satisfaction of all parties concerned. When disagreements occur, they can be worked out on the basis of true respect, empathy, and appreciation of the full human worth of each individual, along with shared values, and goals—qualities that cannot be ordered in a predetermined hierarchy imposed from outside.

In their book Together, Tim and Anne Evans describe the traffic light principle and how it can be used to decide in a mutually submissive relationship.[3] According to the traffic light principle, when it’s time to make a decision, the couple begins by individually praying and seeking the will of God. The couple invites God into the decision making and will not move until they have a green light which mean go. Tim and Anne Evans describe the red light as God is saying no and the yellow light when God is saying wait.

In a mutually submissive marriage, wives are considered equal partners with their husbands, capable of making decisions, collaborating, and using their God-given talents and gifting. None of this negates the kindness that is extended by holding open a door.[4]

The household and parenting are not neglected. It is the stance that both mothers and fathers are necessary in the lives of their children and that both parents are responsible for their home. How this plays out in terms of which parent works, where they work, and for how many hours is subjective to each family and how they feel led to bring forth the Kingdom as a family.

Dear friend, working toward a mutually marriage has been a journey for my husband and I. I want create a place we will share our story and be an encouragement and learn to each other.

 

[1] Alan F Johnson. “How I Changed My Mind about Women in Leadership.” (Place of Publication:  Zondervan, 2010.), 272.

 

[2] Letha Dawson Scanzoni, “Ordered Order—Conservative Christians’ Love Affair with Hierarchy,” Christian Feminism Today. 2013, accessed March 2016, https://eewc.com/Articles/conservative-christians-love-of-hierarchy/.

[3] Tim and Anne Evans, Together Reclaiming Co-Leadership in Marriage. (Place of Publication: AMK Creative, 2014), 11.

[4] Robin Rhine. “6 Things Equalitarian Marriage is Not.” The Junia Project. February 6, 2015, accessed April 22, 2016. http://juniaproject.com/6-things-egalitarian-marriage-is-not/.

 

God Design for Marriage

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 I always longed for a home filled with love and respect, however being raised in a patriarchy culture was an hindrance to see my dream come true.  Growing from a patriarchal marriage to a Biblical marriage has been a journey that I want to share with you on this post.

In a patriachal relationship, women are taught to submit to their husbands and men are taught to be the heads of their homes as prescribed by Scripture. “Wives, be subject to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior” (Eph. 5:22-23).[1]  In my own experience and observation, this mindset is abused more often than not. I have witnessed countless scenarios in which men have to have the last word, and women who do not obey their husbands are often looked upon as being rebellious with a “Jezebel spirit.” Often men take advantage of teaching on hierarchy.

In Christian circles, patriarchy couples learned that a wife should obey her husband even if she feels that God is leading her in a way opposite to her husband’s command. Some interpret the scriptures as saying that a woman must ignore her ‘feelings’ about the will of God, and do what her husband says. She is to obey her husband as if he was God Himself.

Patriachal marriages have led to many abusive relationships. Often, wives are subjected to domineering men who have mismanaged the idea of being head of the family. Being intimidating is an ineffective strategy that can lead to stress, debate, and trouble in the relationship.[2] When seeking counseling, wives are told to try harder, to be more submissive, more caring, and more respectful. This is a good advice when there is reciprocity in the marriage. Otherwise, if repairs are not made, the marriage will soon become worse.[3]

My husband and I marriage became destructive because of our patriarchal culture. I was desperate; I wanted to experience what God intended for us. After several years of praying, reading my Bible, and crying out to God, a year ago, I found the freedom for which I had been longing and I am eager to share in my next post.

Dear friend, God created marriage to be a platform He can use to demonstrate His character. God wants to use your marriage to teach the world about His love, grace, and forgiveness. Unbelievers are supposed to see in believers’ marriages as a model of the relationship between Jesus and His Church. If you are ready this post and are struggling in your marriage, I want to encourage you to diligently seek God for healing and restoration. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. He wants to do for you what he did for me.

[1] All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise noted, are from the Revised Standard Version.

[2] Clark Solomon, “Head of Household,” Mybrotha, June 17, 2007, accessed March 2016. http://www.mybrotha.com/head-of-the-house.asp.

[3] Leslie Vernick. The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope (Colorado Springs, Colorado: Water Brook) 91, Kindle.

Freedom

Step to Freedom

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I am on a journey of my own, learning how to forgive. My past was marked with several traumas, as a result, I was angry, bitter, and resentful. I struggled to forgive those who offended me. June 2016, the Holy Spirit spoke to me in a dream, I needed to forgive if I wanted to continue to be used by Him.

Unforgiveness is very destructive. It affects our:

  • Physical, mental, and emotional well being. Unforgiveness is classified in medical books as a disease. According to Dr. Steven Standiford, chief of surgery at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, refusing to forgive makes people sick and keeps them that way. With that in mind, forgiveness therapy is now being used to help treat diseases, such as cancer[1].
  • Spiritual maturity. God will not forgive us if we don’t forgive others. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15.

What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is letting go the past. We know we are forgiven when the resentment, the desire for vengeance is gone.

In the book of Genesis, the Bible gives us an example of forgiveness. Joseph was more loved by his father than his brothers.  He bragged about his coat of multi colored and his dreams. His brothers became jealous and sold him into slavery to Egypt where he ended up in prison for false accusation. Instead he trusted God who made him prosperous. Later, the famine sent his brothers to Egypt. Joseph, now the prime minister of Egypt, could have seek revenge but instead he told them:

Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives”. Genesis 50: 19-20

Forgiveness is a process and sometimes it takes times and it’s possible with the help of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said: “I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever”. John 14:16. The Holy Spirit is here to help us experience freedom from hurt.

Although I chose to forgive, I struggled with the memories. I needed healing from memories. Initially, I understood healing from the memories to mean that one day, those memories would be gone, and I would think about them no longer. Then the Holy Spirit gave me a picture that changed my understanding. A few years ago, I had surgery. Immediately after the surgery, the wound was very painful and needed dressing sometimes several times a day. Then, the wound healed. I still have scars, but I don’t feel any pain. The scars are just there to remind me that I had surgery. It has been so long that sometimes, I don’t even remember when I had surgery. With the trauma in my life, I have been wounded. Forgiveness healed those wounds; the pain is gone. I have scars, and those scars are always going to be there; they are part of my story. When I look at my scars, I am reminded of the One who was wounded and scarred so I could be saved. His life still speaks today because of His scars. My life will be my legacy. My scars have uniquely allowed me to write this blog, and because of them I can speak into the lives of many who have gone through difficult times.

Dear friend, we all get hurt. It has been said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It could be that you have been able to forgive the one who hurt you, or maybe you are struggling. I understand what you are going through, and I want to create a platform where you will have the freedom to share your story and receive the love and help that comes from other believers who have shared similar struggles.

I also want to invite you to begin the journey of freedom by praying this prayer:

Father, I give you the relationship between me and (insert the name) and I ask you to help me to forgive (insert the name) and to heal that relationship. In Jesus name. Amen.

 

[1] https://www.radicalforgiveness.com/unforgiveness-is-classified-in-medical-books-as-a-disease/