Step to Freedom
I am on a journey of my own, learning how to forgive. My past was marked with several traumas, as a result, I was angry, bitter, and resentful. I struggled to forgive those who offended me. June 2016, the Holy Spirit spoke to me in a dream, I needed to forgive if I wanted to continue to be used by Him.
Unforgiveness is very destructive. It affects our:
- Physical, mental, and emotional well being. Unforgiveness is classified in medical books as a disease. According to Dr. Steven Standiford, chief of surgery at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, refusing to forgive makes people sick and keeps them that way. With that in mind, forgiveness therapy is now being used to help treat diseases, such as cancer.
- Spiritual maturity. God will not forgive us if we don’t forgive others. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15.
What is forgiveness?
Forgiveness is letting go the past. We know we are forgiven when the resentment, the desire for vengeance is gone.
In the book of Genesis, the Bible gives us an example of forgiveness. Joseph was more loved by his father than his brothers. He bragged about his coat of multi colored and his dreams. His brothers became jealous and sold him into slavery to Egypt where he ended up in prison for false accusation. Instead he trusted God who made him prosperous. Later, the famine sent his brothers to Egypt. Joseph, now the prime minister of Egypt, could have seek revenge but instead he told them:
“Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives”. Genesis 50: 19-20
Forgiveness is a process and sometimes it takes times and it’s possible with the help of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said: “I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever”. John 14:16. The Holy Spirit is here to help us experience freedom from hurt.
Although I chose to forgive, I struggled with the memories. I needed healing from memories. Initially, I understood healing from the memories to mean that one day, those memories would be gone, and I would think about them no longer. Then the Holy Spirit gave me a picture that changed my understanding. A few years ago, I had surgery. Immediately after the surgery, the wound was very painful and needed dressing sometimes several times a day. Then, the wound healed. I still have scars, but I don’t feel any pain. The scars are just there to remind me that I had surgery. It has been so long that sometimes, I don’t even remember when I had surgery. With the trauma in my life, I have been wounded. Forgiveness healed those wounds; the pain is gone. I have scars, and those scars are always going to be there; they are part of my story. When I look at my scars, I am reminded of the One who was wounded and scarred so I could be saved. His life still speaks today because of His scars. My life will be my legacy. My scars have uniquely allowed me to write this blog, and because of them I can speak into the lives of many who have gone through difficult times.
Dear friend, we all get hurt. It has been said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It could be that you have been able to forgive the one who hurt you, or maybe you are struggling. I understand what you are going through, and I want to create a platform where you will have the freedom to share your story and receive the love and help that comes from other believers who have shared similar struggles.
I also want to invite you to begin the journey of freedom by praying this prayer:
Father, I give you the relationship between me and (insert the name) and I ask you to help me to forgive (insert the name) and to heal that relationship. In Jesus name. Amen.